By Nadine Hickman
PIVOTING : A Super Easy Strategy To Instantly Feel Empowered.
Feeling empowered is THE greatest feeling in the world. It’s a super power, think Superwoman! (or Man)… you feel like you can handle anything that life throws at you, you also feel proud, confident and sure of yourself; imagine feeling inspired and energetic; not to mention - loving, tolerant, calm and at peace… and the best news is, you can flip a switch and empower yourself anytime, anywhere using this simple strategy.
THE PIVOTING PROCESS
I learnt this technique from the teachings of Abraham Hicks. But it doesn’t matter if you’re a believer in vibrational energy or not, the process of pivoting will instantly change your perspective and empower you by showing you how you can powerfully control your own thoughts, feelings, emotions, and actions.
The Pivoting Process - What is it?
“Pivoting is a process of deliberately focusing your attention with the intention of directing your own life experience.” - ABRAHAM HICKS
First you need to recognise that every subject is really two subjects, what IS wanted and what IS NOT wanted, and when we “pivot” we move ourselves, at will, from one to the other. Pivoting is a handy way to use negative emotion as a guidance system for discovering what it is that you really do want.
When ever you are thinking or speaking about something you don’t want, you will feel negative emotion, and be disempowered. In this state you are a victim to outside circumstance with little or no control and going about your day reacting to one negative unwanted thing after the other.
When you pivot and think about what you DO want, not only do you feel better, but you are taking control of a situation and moving in the direction of the solution - AKA: empowered.
BONUS: Your new thoughts and feelings will also inspire positive action, which in turn is even more empowering! So all around this process is a big WIN!
How To Pivot
All that is required is to stop spending time noticing what you do not like about where you currently are, and instead look forward to where you want to be. There is absolutely no advantage in pondering, lamenting, thinking or speaking of the things you do not want, so spend no time complaining about where you currently are.
To pivot requires you to take conscious control of your thoughts and words (words are just thoughts spoken out loud). But, more importantly pivoting begins with caring about how you feel.
Notice if you feel bad - this could mean any sort of negative emotion - sad, angry, worried, anxious, hurt, fearful, frustrated…
Say to yourself, “I am feeling negative emotion which means I am thinking about something I do not want. What is it that I DO want?”
Very briefly acknowledge the thing that you do not want (the reason for your feeling bad), then quickly pivot your thinking, and think of the opposite, simply turn your attention to what you DO want.
Sound too simple to be effective? Give it a try. Taking conscious control of your thoughts and feelings is very empowering, and The Pivoting Process is an easy strategy to begin to do this.
Ever experienced ‘one of those days’, where one thing after the other goes wrong? Try this process of pivoting and see if you can turn it around before things spiral from bad to worse.
What if I don’t feel an instant and powerful change in how you feel?
Don’t give up!
If you pivot to thinking of what you do want and at the same time you doubt your words, then you will not instantly feel better and you will not feel very empowered. Be patient and keep practicing this technique. The more you speak and think of what you DO want, the less you are speaking and thinking of what you don’t want, and if you speak or think something often enough, you WILL begin to feel it, and then see evidence of it happening in your life.
The more you practice pivoting, the more you will realise how empowered you are, because you’ll realise you actually have a choice about how you think, feel and act. And most importantly that you don’t need to wait for good things to happen in order to feel good.
When you think good thoughts,
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