By Karen Sydne
THOUGHT OF THE WEEK
“Life is 10%
to you and
90% how you
react to it.”
- Charles R. Swindall
Sometimes crappy things happen to us.
Sometimes we feel like we're not in control of our life and what happens around us and to us.
But, it's extremely liberating to know that you ARE always, always, always in control of how you react.
It's not easy, controlling your reactions takes effort, focus, restraint, and a lot of deep breathing! Didn't our mothers always say to us "Count to 10" - that's pretty sound advice!
Reacting in the heat of the moment is never a good idea.
Neither is reacting when you're full of emotion.
So what happens when you find yourself in negative or conflict situations?
How should I react?
That's easy. React in a way that makes YOU feel good.
3 STEPS TO BETTER REACTIONS
1. Have a rule to never respond immediately. Walk away, breath, count to 10, remove yourself somehow from the situation.
2. Ask yourself, "What would make ME feel good?"
Don't worry about anyone else. What would make you feel good?
If you get angry or say something that aggravates a situation, just to feel righteous or satisfy your ego, will that make you feel better or worse?
Make your peace and good feeling your #1 priority.
How can you react in a way that will make you feel good?
3. If you still don't feel like you can respond in a way that will make you feel good, then don't respond at all. Give yourself time. Say nothing, do nothing. You may just find the situation magically fades in to the background because you didn't give it any energy.
OBSERVE, EVALUATE, PRACTICE
Stand back from your life and watch how you react to things this week. Notice how your reaction to every day events make you feel. At the end of your day, evaluate your reactions. If something didn't go the way you wanted it to, play out a different scenario in your mind. Imagine how you could of reacted differently for a situation to end up how you did want it to.
See if tomorrow you can react better. Practice better reactions every day. Make this a fun game. Observe how the flow of events of life is a series of actions and reactions, an on going chain reaction. How can you effect this chain reaction in your favour?
Food for though ....
Let us know how you go in the comments below...
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A great reminder to consciously and carefully choose your reactions, so you FEEL GOOD and have a positive effect on the flow of life's events.
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